I didn't have a single say in what my life was when I was a kid. Neither did you, unless you were some super-genius who could boss your parents around. But one day, many moons ago (ha!), I decided exactly what I wanted out of life...and have created just that.

Because our lives are created, not just given to us without our say. Want to have a say in what your life looks like—what you get to experience every day? Then stick around because that's kind of my whole thing.

I'm Bella, a forever-learning, create-your-own-life touting, cheese enthusiast.

let's figure this whole life thing out together

You don't get to choose your life. At least not for the first 18 (sometimes more, or less) years of your life. Someone else was always calling the shots, and you were never asked "hey, you, do you want this life? Do you want to follow in the footsteps of your family trauma cycle, poverty, hardships, *insert any other crappy inherited reality*?"

You haven't had a say in what you want to do, where you want to go, or who you want to be...

Until now.

I was you. Before. Before I decided my life was mine to live, to grow, to build into exactly what makes me happiest. Coming from a family of 6 kids, chaos, trauma, alcoholism, and never talking about any of that in the open, I know how hard it can be to break out.

But I did. And you can, too. Because I'm not special. I'm just a person who decided it was time for a change, and then did something about it.

Let me help you do something about it, too.

YOU FEEL CAPABLE OF SO MUCH MORE

YOU'RE TIRED OF BEING SO TIRED OF TRYING SO HARD

LIFE HAS FELT "UNFAIR"

(Not literally, that'd be creepy!) Saying I *understand you* is far more accurate—I've been where you are.

i see you!

coffe,
tea, or
energy drink?

vacations:

mountains


beach

or

early bird



night owl

fun
fact

01.

02.

03.

2 truths & a lie—where's the lie?

sweet

savory

or

cheese, weed, &
a bath so hot it hurts

i was born in japan

i can speak 2 languages

i've never been to Europe

my music taste varies, from 90's country to stomp and holler, pop, indie, and more.

GUESS & CLICK

or

(not necessarily at the same time, ha!)

coffe,
tea, or
energy drink?

beaches
mountains

 non-guilty pleasures

early bird



night owl

fun
fact

01.

02.

03.

2 truths & a lie—where's the lie?

sweet

savory

or

guess my

with

i was born in japan

i can speak 2 languages

i've never been to Europe

my music taste varies, from 90's country to stomp and holler, pop, indie, and more.

GUESS & CLICK

or

Comfortable & cute

EVERYDAY STYLE

I don't really do "favorites" here

FAVORITE TV SHOW

Latte: real milk, real sugar

COFFEE ORDER

Spring in Texas

Season of choice

Burgers, fried cheese curds

FAVORITE FOOD

Writing, Reading, Outdoors

HOBBIES

Dedicated

Current Mood

Plant-green

Favorite color

Oh you wanna get personal here? Okay!

By day, I'm a digital marketing content creating wizard (because my skillz are like magic, okay?) teaching people the art of writing and self-publishing books, and by other half of the day, I'm an author-in-training, currently crafting my debut nonfiction all about the stuff you see me talk about here.

And by night (technically not JUST night)...well. By night I'm a handstanding, dog & cat parenting, homemade meal cooking, various arts and crafting, greenbelt hiking, voraciously traveling lady who loves nothing more than a freshly rolled joint, a juicy burger, and cuddling up with my man to end the day.

Okay, so maybe my life doesn't quite look like yours...maybe not in the day-to-day, but...

My life is probably a lot more like yours than you think...

but bELLA... what about you?

Not anymore. There are still struggles with some things, but I've "cracked the code" when it comes to getting out of my own way and creating the life only I want. Meaning...

I understand myself enough to work through even the hard times in the process of getting where I want to go. It's not just the "know how" but it's the "know what will stop you along the way" type of gig.

Do you want to learn how? Because you can learn how. This is not a "you're born with it or not" type of situation. It's a "if you want to learn, all it takes is the desire to" kind.


When it comes to the desire to create your own path in life?

Yeah...I'm with you there.

My life used to be filled with working a job I hated to barely make ends meet, dodging credit card companies calls about another bill I couldn't pay, and even avoiding friends and family because I was too upset, depressed, anxious—you name it.